I never faced gender discrimination in anywhere I walked, never in my school, college, NGO’s or in my workplace. Never ever! In fact I was always uplifted, motivated and made to come forward regardless of my gender. But the place where I had to go through this bizarre hell is the very close circle of mine, my very family! I mean I just can’t believe this. Can this be happening in the so called elite literate class of people. But that’s the mere Sulking truth!!
I belong to a very big family and I’m so much a family person. Each and every minute decisions are being carefully scrutinised, approved and finalised by the elder male members of my family. And its just not always possible for one to go and correct each and every one of them.We respect all but wrong is wrong and at no cost can wrong be justified no matter who!
I grew up watching the woes and miseries of the helpless women. So many, so many of them. Even as a kid I found it disturbing. The agonies of the not so educated, unemployed helpless women.. I saw them many. But then I thought I was different. I went to the most prominent school of my place, I was provided the most privileged education and all the fortunes. And I imagined I was different from all of them and I believed I’m gonna be the queen of my dreams!
But no! I realized it very late!
Whoever got ‘her’ voice to speak up, whoever got ‘her’ own battles to fight, whoever got ‘her’ own dreams to chase,
Will be sabotaged, no one is exceptional! She will have to pay for it. That’s the unwritten rule.
And everyone has followed this and everyone is following it even now. Okay well fine. Peace is all we want. But what about the men! Who decides the limits for them. No one. And they are as free as they are, regardless of age, time, place!! Wonderful. I mean does that really sound wonderful.
This has happened with me and this is happening with me and
I’m not gonna accept it never ever.
I’m not quite sure if I’m the only one who see all these kinda bizarre stuffs. May be I’m. I don’t know.
I mean to say this clearly, yes, family do comes first, at least for me! But just because I’m a girl, I’m a woman I have to sacrifice myself all the time and everything and you can suppress and oppress me like anything, and just because he is a man and he can live a life of his choice with prosperity!! oh I’m really so sorry I will have to disappoint those people. They say the society, the rules.. I ask who sets these partial rules and for whom do they set this!! Only to keep women in agony generation after after generation. I don’t know. I
mean I just don’t find it a fair deal. And I’m not ready to accept it like my fate or whatever.
I believe wrong happen with us mostly only when we allow it. If any body out their like me face these, don’t just accept and allow this to happen. We are not bewitched. We are not feeble, weak or the epitome of sacrifice! We are the fighters and We don’t accept anything less than success. We are the queens of our dreams and we are not gonna let it die.
Family plays a crucial role in the growth of a person. You allow your boy to grow with his dreams and you shatter and crush out your girls dreams and later you call her the arrogant, rude, disobedient, selfish daughter then she just don’t give a damn, you just take it, you made her that!
P.S. I have heard people say now in this modern high tech era there is no discrimination based on gender but I face it then I felt I should at least speak it out.